Instead of beginning at the beginning of life, we will start at the beginning of the new life. The life being sought through love.
By far this is the hardest human emotion to understand. It is also the most complex. This one emotion can send a person to a state of euphoria, or to a state of total depression. We will start with a brief definition of what I believe love to be, Split into three catagories.
Physical love: This type of love has little, if any emotional ties. Love is actually all sexual, with just a small emotional tie. The tie is actually just to the sex. Physical love is basically a very close friendship with a sexual attatchment. These relationships are transitions between relationships and are usually one night stands with the participants remaining friends, but not always. There is no commitment with physical love.
Emotional Love: This is the most common form of love in our society. This is the love that many marriages are based on. There is an emotional attatchment with this love that builds over time. Relationships could be very good, but also may be very bad. Sometimes the partners are not at all compatible but stay together because of other factors such as, fear of being alone, having strong physical love of the other partner, having love for the other person, but not being in love with them, not wanting to hurt the other partner, etc. This is very detrimental to the relationship as well as to both participants individually. If you find yourself fighting more than kissing, your not in love, even if you think you are, and must either solve the problems quickly so you can “fall in love” or call it quits and start over in another relationship.
True Love: The exact definition of love. Unfortunetly, not many people experience this love. When involved in a true love relationship, you are happiest doing things for your partner. Everything in life revolves around you as a couple, all you live for is to make your partner happy and all your partner lives for is to make you happy. Buying flowers for your girlfriend just to see her smile is true love, and her happiness is all you need to receive in return.
Love is learned through experience, not sexual experience, but the experience of loving other people, and mainly loving yourself. In other times people would remain virgins until marriage, many more marriages worked out better then because of the fact that the relationship was not based on sex, but on the happiness of each other. Cheating while dating was not an issue, so jealousy was minimized. Today kids as young as 12 are sexually active and many of their relationships are based on sex alone, and usually don’t work out. This is especially detrimental to young girls for they develop feelings of being used or worthlessness because that is what they are being told. This may later inhibit them from trusting the opposite sex, and may make them miss out on a true love relationship just becausethey can’t understand when someone is loving them from the heart, and believe if they get too close they will be crushed and allow themselves to be played. In this example the result would actually be totally opposite. This person may actually treat them better than anyone else and truly love them for who they are. The fear of being used for sex and their distrust in men inhibits them from trying the relationship, and in turn they will miss their chance at happiness. These girls will most likely end up in relationships where they are very unhappy, and their marriages probably will end in divorce.